I find it helpful to hear things from the guy's perspective. I used to do things like leaving cute notes, etc. and I realized that wasn't quite what he wanted. He wants a different kind of attention. However, I don't feel like he's cluing in to the kind of attention I want. I need to hear nice things being said to me even if that's not what he needs. He doesn't get that. I feel myself emotionally backing away from him and a big part of me wants to just run away. It seems like we both want the same things - I'm not sure anymore - but meeting eachother's needs is just downright impossible right now.