I think the counseling sounds like a good idea. I decided I am going to do that. I have some friends to talk to but quite honestly, I think I would rather go to a counselor to sort things out privately. I also find it helpful to read these posts on-line to gain a little more insight. I go back later and read things I wrote and that's kind of interesting too.
I've been where you are and I think I'm back there again now. I'm trying to focus on what I can do to build my strength back up. It's like all this emotional trauma in my marriage has sucked the life out of me. That may or may not be how you feel too.