Here's my story: a few weeks ago my husband told me he wants a divorce. we dated for 6 years, and got married in the summer of 2004. We are best friends, and each other's first love. We care deeply about each other, and he says that he "fell out of love" with me. At first I cried hysterically and tried to talk to him, but I've stopped that. Now I let him have his space and am trying to accept the fact that he wants out of this marriage. But I honestly think it is ridiculous to give up on a marriage without even trying to work it out. We never fight, and like I said we both really care about each other. But we have become distant, and have began leading separate lives. He feels like we are still young, and he thinks he "needs to do this" now while we can both start fresh. He keeps saying that we are different, which we are because he is very manly (into sports, beer, poker) and I'm pretty girly (into arts, crafts, shopping). I think it is a big mistake to quit so easily - he won't try counseling, and even though I give him all he space he needs, I don't think that is helping either. How did some of you finally realize to stop trying? I've come a long way from where I was several weeks ago - I could barely get out of bed before, and now I've just begun to accept that he wants out. But when do you know to give up hope and move on?
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