Thanks so much for all your replies, I've been reading them all. I still struggle with coming to the acceptance phase b/c I am not one to just quit without even trying to make it work. But apparently he is. I don't even believe in divorce because I think that every marriage has problems, and running away from problems is not the answer. Did I mention that we don't fight? Well, last night I told him that if he is so sure that he wants out of this marriage then he really needs to start taking some action on it and stop keeping me in limbo - ie no more sleeping in the same bed, start the process, and also that this is it, there is no going back. He slept in a different room last night, and I will start looking for an apartment.