BE CAREFUL about getting an apartment. I know he is not being helpful about this and you are trying to put your foot down, which is a good thing, but if you move out you lost some important legal rights. Please consult a lawyer--usually the initial consult is free, and if you have $ issues there should be a legal aid society somewhere near you. Call your local library for some resources (can you tell I am a librarian?). Please take care of yourself.