Divorce Support Forums: I want to change my user name

There is a lot of unintended irony in the username I chose. I like to think of myself as a decisive person. Everytime I have been successful at something it is because I decided what I wanted and went for it without hesitating. Well I want a happy and healthy marriage (accepting conflicts, but working toward understanding), with my wife. I want to raise my kids with her together in the same house and build upon what we already have. I absolutely love and adore my wife and yes I have already told her all this.

The problem is, no matter how decisive I am, I do not have control of the situation. In the past that didn't matter, because I trusted that she felt the same. Now that trust is shattered, partly because of things that have come to light, but mostly because she tells me that she never really had those feelings for me. So there's my quandry, do I keep fishing for feelings that may not even be there, or do I cut bait and go to a different pond? Right now there are just too many things keeping me where I am at, but I don't know how long I can keep it up.

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