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My child is about 8 months old now. I know that I will regret the decision but I am also sure that she would be better off without me as well.

Let me give you an idea of what my marriage was like. The first year everything was great despite how much we struggled to keep our heads above water since my wife was the only one employed. The second year was a mess when she wanted us to move to South Carolina and move in with her mother. Since being with her family, her family made me feel insecure about myself. I would work around the yard doing whatever was needed and I was made to feel like I was stupid because what her mother wanted done wasn't done to her specification. She constantly threatened to kick me out if things weren't done her way and that I would never see my daughter ever again. When I finally got a job, her family made me feel like what I was earning wasn't good enough in their eyes for my wife and daughter. Everyday when I came home from work, her family was their taking care of our daughter while my wife was healing from a C-Section. Each time I got home, I had to hear their two-cents about how our daughter should be raised like it was the 1920's when parental care and responsibilities changed since they were parent's. When it came to home life, I was told what I could do and what I couldn't do (i.e. when to sleep and wake up, when to eat and starve, when I could chill out or not, when to leave for work and when I had to be home, etc.). I finally grew the backbone that they wanted me to have so much.....they didn't expect it to backfire on them. I hold enough information of their family secrets that I could use it to turn them against each other if I wanted to.

As for my wife, she never stood up for me when her family wanted to ride my rear about stupid things. All promises made were empty promises from her. Even when we seperated, she bought the bus ticket and told me to say goodbye to our daughter because I would never see her again. When I got back to my hometown, our friends wanted to help us put our marriage back together again. Our friends asked her to drive to my hometown so that we could talk but she refused to because her mother didn't think it would be a good idea. I thought my wife could think for herself but apparently she can't since she is under her mother's wing again as little miss perfect.

So I will be ever so happy when I get away from that side of the family when we get divorced. And if they think that they can raise our daughter better.....I'll give them their shot but they don't need to come crying to me when that too backfires against them.

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