Not saying your trying to screw him out of anything but it's time to think about you and your child's needs. If the OW has been through 2 divorces and is with a man going through one I'm not sure she has her eye on the ball. Take my advise for what it is............and simply that, however in divorce there comes a time when you must put you love aside as the one left behind and plan for the future. I told you this might seem odd but it is my advise to you with care and compassion. You need to move quickly and decisively in this matter for you and your child. Do you want to share your child 50/50 if so my X gets 150.00 a month. Is this the life you want, it's all up to U I just see the time is right to make sure your future is what it needs to be.