Do you ever feel like you can't do things for just your child? I have a 9 year old stepdaughter that I have been in her life since she was 3 days old. My husband and I have a 3 year old daughter together. I feel like I can't do anything for just my child. A silly example, I've been wanting to get her name tattooed on me (small, tasteful, blah, blah, blah) but feel like I can't because that would hurt SD's feelings. There are lots of little things also, like having to contribute the exact same amounts to college funds, and spend about the same amount at CHristmas, even though SD gets twice as many presents as my daughter. Am I trying to hard? Am I being silly? It doesn't help my feelings that whenever there is an issue, I get the she's not your "real" daughter (even from my husband). That makes me feel like I shouldn;t even try to consider SD's feelings, since apparently, since she's not my kid, I shouldn't care.
Anyway, do you ever so things for only your "real" kids (god I hate that saying)? How do you feel when you do? How do your "fake" kids feel when you do?
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