Yes i'm definitely not moving forward. Im very stuck. I guess it is false hope as i treat her mostly well. though obviously i've been snippy here or there but still wait on her and do all around the house. She's given me a half hearted statement she will try to quit smoking but i told her a long time ago i'm not cleaning the living room until you do. So 11 years of smoke on the walls. Nice reminder. This is just a small part of the problem but i do figure if she doesnt want to take care of herself and try to get better (all doctors said and she agrees that she cant heal while she is a diabetic smoker), why should i care?
Unfortunately i dont think i can get over worrying about where she will end up. No way can we/I afford a home for her and i doubt she would go anyway.
The lawyer told me i can pretty much count on permanent alimony but i hope i can keep the amount down or negotiate more pension away or something.
can i buy life insurance on her if we are divorced? She always says her family dies young and I think i read on another board that you can somehow insure your ex legally.
-------------------- call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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