Divorce Support Forums: guilt and pity? reasons to stay?

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It is one thing when someone files a no-fault divorce because they have met another person and therefore wants to "ditch" a perfectly healthy mate. It is another thing when they want out of a marriage to avoid a lifetime of slavery to someone as a provider of support, nursing and care--in return for basically nothing. The solution may lay in the grounds provided for divorce by state law for situations like yours, which may be much kinder to you than normal "no-fault" grounds are in regard to alimony. In any case, your alimony should be no greater than that which would have been "minimal" if she were not disabled which, if she worked before her disability developed, may be virtually zero. If this turns out to be true, then Social Security should take care of her care thru early medicare if she has any significant assets after the divorce, and SSI should do it if she does not have assets. You have to find a very good lawyer, who is familiar both with family law and Social Security regs. [/quote]

she has virtually zero assets to her sole name. certainly it's less than 10K in retirement and other investments. Then there is splitting up a lump sum award but even if she gets that all it's only 20K.

YOU are the first person I remember saying anything to me about SSI. (apologies if someone else did). I totally forgot she was denied because my income was too high but did get SSD . I wonder if i can figure out how much her SSI would have been or find the 5 year old letter lol. She gets like 775 now in SSD. Is that any indicator of SSI and what that would be?

Your info about SSI has given me the hope i've needed not to come out of this much poorer than the 1K alimony the atty i saw said i'd owe at a minimum. We loved the soc sec atty we had for the first round of appeals but sounds like if she has no income she would be automatically approved for SSI!

you made my day

I'm not 'happy' about the divorce i assure you but i thought she would be destitute and i felt bad and this gives me hope i can leave her in good conscience

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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.

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