UpsideDown, How much time do you have....My ordeal started 2 weeks before xmas2005. My stbx left my daughter and I for a guy she met on the internet. We had been married for 10 years. She was diagnosed 8 years ago with depression and I stood by her through all the meds and therapy. Still didn't work. You are in such a better place. It was hard for the first few months but I established a support group of friends and family. I served her papers on 29 Dec 2005 and the divorce is still not final. Custody was worked out early on but assets have been the sticking point. I have the house, she has the STD. :) You have an opportunity that a lot of people don't get a chance at, living your life happier. This site will help. Good Luck and stay strong.