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I too am in Oregon. I have been married 19yrs and am currently in couples counseling. Our marriage has been troubled a long time, communication is the main thing. Now my husband is going to church and will do anything for the church and things at home go neglected. He has never connected with our kids, which we have 3, the oldest is 18. Youngest being 13, middle one 16. I have been a stay at home mom all this time, our kids are good kids not in trouble and are doing well in school. My husband is threatening me with divorce and I am so tired of him holding this over my head. I am worried about having nothing, we have a house that does not have much equity in and credit card bills. I do not want to be living in a box, I could not afford the house payment because I can no way make the amount of money my husband does. Our kids have already told me they would never live with him. I know the standard of living goes down with a divorce, but how much farther down than nothing can one go lol. If he does file for divorce, I will contest it. Anyway, long story but I do relate to you that are scared. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for quite a while. I am considering suggesting we sell the house to afford two apts. and separate. I know he will have to pay child support, and I would hope spousal support since I devoted all that time to running our household. I am so confused now and just want resolution. I deserve someone who will love me and give me the emotional support I need. I do not and have never got that from him. He thinks all he has to do is work and support the family, I get stuck doing inside AND outside work. I am miserable, and misery does love company. Thanks for listening to me babble.

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