Divorce Support Forums: step mother labeled as evil by mother

I am not sure my opinion will matter or make a difference but I will give it anyway...for me the key was to stop worrying about what the Step kids thought of me...what was more important was what I thought of myself...they know how to manipulate and hurt...even at a young age...my SS lashed out at my kids...hurt them with his words and his actions..he thought if he hurt them he would ultimately hurt me and I would "go away"...well that was not the case...I never allowed him to bully me or my kids...even if my husband was afraid to stand up to him (hated my SS being angry with him) I have always stood up to him...for me it is not an X that tried to ruin the relationship but my Step kids themselves...they are all jealous of my kids because they have two parents involved...and we are supposed to "feel sorry" for them because their mom left...I feel bad but I don't feel sorry...I don't allow them to use this as an excuse to be nasty and mean and selfish...it has been many years now and three of them are adults and the youngest is now 14...you can only us a crutch for so long and then you need to get past it...I have stood strong for me and my kids and I have not allowed us to be the whipping post for these kids or my husband...sympathy wore off a long time ago...they have too much in this life that is good to continue to focus on this one point and make it an every day excuse to fail...but anyway that is just my story...(:

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