Divorce Support Forums: Lived in TX got papers in OK, is it right?

I've posted this in divorce forum as well. But may be someone here can help too.
I'm new to all this & since its still raw, it is very very painful & then I've to face all the reality as well which basically narrows down to actually facing this nightmare & supporting myself. So here it goes:
My STBX inlaws & my parents live here in Tulsa, OK & thats where we got married in May'05. I moved to live with my hub in Irving, TX right after marriage. Even though we visited Tulsa alot, we resided in Irving, TX. He worked fulltime there & I worked part time. Did our taxes there too. My name was on apartment lease & on dishnetwork.
Now since 12/22/07 I'm at my parents & on 01/18/08 I received the summon from Tulsa, OK court for divorce from him.
I wanted to get things ready before I speak to my lawyer so I called my apt leasing office & boy were they rude. First they said, they won't let me have proof, then said your hub told us you took everything so we are taking your name out, I informed them that on 01/17/08 I just took my basic belongings (my car, most of the clothes (not all), shoes, & books). So she said she'll fax it to the # I provided, but she never did.
I'm gonna ask IRS to send me our '05 & '06 returns. I can figure out how to get my proof of last employment.
Q#1: I want to know is it in my favor to inform the court that legally this case should take place in TX not in OK? (now I wonder why my husband never let me change my OK driver's liscence to TX & his as well).
I currently don't have a job (he made me quit), living with my parents, will need a lawyer but can't afford him, & he does not want to give me anything. He has 401K.
I've a foreign M.S. degree which equals B.S. degree in U.S. in Nutrition. But never got a chance to finish my last semester after marriage. I made $12,000 in '06 & $18,800 in '07 in retail job.
Q#2: Do I qualify for spousal support? BTW I think he made $32,000 in '06 & $39,000 in '07.
Q#3: Not so important but still what can I do about the leasing office's refusal of help?
Can anyone answer all of above questions, please?

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