Q#1: I want to know is it in my favor to inform the court that legally this case should take place in TX not in OK? (now I wonder why my husband never let me change my OK driver's liscence to TX & his as well).
Does it matter? They are both no-fault states. If you divorce in TX, and have disagrements, you will have to travel to TX courts, and probably have a TX attorney. It's actually to your advantage to divorce in Tulsa.
Q#2: Do I qualify for spousal support? BTW I think he made $32,000 in '06 & $39,000 in '07.
No. Spousal support is for long term marriages. You have been married less than 3 years.
Q#3: Not so important but still what can I do about the leasing office's refusal of help? Can anyone answer all of above questions, please?
Not sure what you want from the leasing company, unless you are trying to prove you lived in Texas. If you jointly files your taxes in Texas the last couple years, they is probably enough.
You are entitled to perhaps 1/2 the increase in value of the 401K since you got married. This could vary greatly. With the mini stock market crash the last month, many retirements have lost much in that time. Do you have liabilities, such as credit cards? These have to be split also.