Randy: just so you know we all say we "don't want to meet anyone else" until we do and then foget it...but initially you do need to focus on the kids...who will get primary custody...if she wants this independent lifestyle does that mean she doesn't want to be a mom anymore...just a part time mom? that does happen a lot...I hope for the kids sake you are both very involved and everything works out ok for you all...good luck...(: