I have made an appointment on Friday to talk to the legal office at Ft.Stewart here. I'm not sure how things will work out. He gets paid over 22 years and we have been married for 23. He has a break in active duty time so he can't retire for about 3 more years. Thing is, he has been an ass all along but is really being an ass now....he got busted by the Korean cops for a DUI and pretty much deadended his career. I begged him NOT to go to Korea again because I knew it would be the end of us. He was just there a little over a year ago, came stateside and we all moved so he could go to school and he went right back to Korea for 2 years and last week said he is staying for another 9 months so he can just retire from over there. He has had at least one affair that I know of and probably more because every freaking word he speaks is a lie.....oh I'm so ready to move on. I've been alone pretty much our whole career because he has alway had jobs where he wasn't home...constantly tdy. Stupidest thing I ever did was stay for the kids. Any how, thanks for the help.