Hi everyone - I'm just getting started in my divorce process, and I have been separated since August of '07. I have been involved with this really great guy since October of '06.
Okay, here's my story in a nutshell: my boyfriend has a criminal record (okay I know that sounds BAD, but please read on) - for something he did NOT do. (It really is true). It involved a 16 year old student of his accusing him of improperly touching her - the charges were dropped except for a 4th degree charge (corrupting the morals of a minor), b/c she pulled up her shirt and he went over and yanked it back down. No jail time, no Megan's Law. He told me all about this two weeks after we started dating b/c he didn't want to keep anything from me. I decided to continue on with him b/c he is a really good guy. And this was a real damaging ordeal for him.
Here's my concern: my soon-to-be-ex husband somehow found out about this and is now referring to my boyfriend as a "pedophile." (My ex is mean, controlling, vicious, and trying to destroy my life). We have a 9 year old daughter. I told my ex that my b/f is NOT a pedophile, that he should get the facts straight before he calls people names like that.
My b/f is wonderful - he treats me with the utmost respect, and he and my daughter get along very well. She respects him. I'm not afraid for my daughter; I know he would not hurt my daughter. If I thought he would, I would not continue to see him. I really do love this man.
Can my ex "forbid" me to see my b/f through the court or something? B/c of my b/f's "record"? My b/f is afraid that my ex will make allegations against him that he touched my daughter inappropriately or something, and that will destroy my b/f's life. I assured him that my ex can't do that b/c my ex is never even AROUND my apartment, and my b/f and Amanda have NEVER been alone together (just b/c of circumstances, no reason in particular). And my daughter would NEVER lie or make false accusations against my b/f or anyone else. As I said, she really likes my b/f very much.
Can my ex cause trouble for my b/f?? We are on shaky ground right now b/c of this - can anyone put my mind at ease? I'd like to know if my ex has a leg to stand on regarding who I choose to date or not to date. And since there's NO MEGAN'S LAW, we should be okay legally, right?
Please please please help me - the greatest relationship of my life is hanging in the balance......thanks so much.
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