Divorce Support Forums: Ladies, should I be mean afterwards?

so...i called her and woke her up... told her "you are sneaky arent you? you just made my decision for me, I want a divorce"

she started crying that she is sorry and a moron and that she was scared and her mom made her do it. Said she is tired of people telling her what to do (whatever that means). She told me she FORGOT to tell me last night. sat there all night and she just forgot at 15K transaction she did behind my back? I said if that is true then you need to forget about seeing any pain or other doctors and get yourself to a memory doctor as soon as possible. I said that is really bad to forget something like that. Then she said she was 'gonna' tell me and just forgot.

the sucky news for her is...the mom that told her to do this is NOT supporting her and will not let her move in. So she said she will be relegated to her sister/boyfriends trailer out on the farm they live on until she gets HUD or whatever she can afford. I Pity her more than ever now but i am done. She didnt know the 1st thing about all our bank accounts an even the woman on the phone told her she should know more about her money. And of course the woman locked the wrong account for transferring money so now my wife has to call and get that lock undone. My wife is adamant she only locked her solo account, not our joint. Truth is, that woman probably heard we were getting divorced and confused my wife enough that she agreed to the hold and didnt know it.

I told my wife i will not screw with or be hiding money etc. I never would have run off with the money and YOU were the one asking to be civil. I said all money is tracable and even if i gambled it all away, you could get it back thru the legal process!!!! I told her we will come up with a list of stuff we all agree on then i know there will be stuff to fight about and that is fine.

i still feel like &&&& relegating her to a life like she will have after this marriage but at least it will force her to become more independent and learn about things. She did work in a bank so you think she would know more or take an interest in money but she never did. Thought all we bought just got paid out my ass i guess, never knew our visa was so high etc.

the saga continues

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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.

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