Divorce Support Forums: Ex wife driving me insane!!!

I wouldnt mind.. but its a wedding picture. Beore the child was born. It wouldnt bother me if it was the three of them. So she would know they ALL love her. But i feel it is confusing for her to see married pictures not family pictures in her room. I have tried to have a civil relationship with her mother and understand and dont want to be friends. But for the sake of my husabnds child have desperately tried to be the bigger person but being positive and tell her how much i like her mother and encourage her on every visit to speak well of both. Every time we get her for about 2 hours she goes through all the things "my mommy says". And she always looks worried if her mother was around and is afraid to show affection to either of us. In my mind and my husbands she is trying to give false hope and hoping to drive me out which will never happen. We just recently explained to her mother that I am in both their lives no matter what and clearly i am good to her daughter because she doesnt say other wise. I just get so upset that she is trying to manipulate a 3 year old into hateful thoughts. And cause friction when all i am trying to do, as a mother, is to include her in my step daughters life even on our time. which is a constant fight with her to share any information that my husband would enjoy participating in. I just want what is best and i feel no matter what it will always be an argument and the child will be hurt in the end. I dont understand why she treats me as if I was the one that swooped in and stole her husband. I just feel hopeless and that our lives will be filled with anguish. It is on a daily basis, I hate to see either my husband or my step daughter hurt by all this.

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