Excellent .. thank you so much. we will do think just so hard to think what is morally right and what isnt. But that is a great idea. We will just stop informing her of these things. Seeing as how we are paying for evrything.. and she did make the comment to their dance teacher that she wants all the supplies and we are to receive the bills. Lovely.. which wont be the case cause its our name on the checks and we will be receiving the supplies. I will just try harder to ignore and deal with her crazy antics and outburts. No matter how much we want for my step daughter to have a normal and loving life from both ends we can not control her actions and theres no ways she will be able to control ours. Just hope that she will see the harm day of her mothers actions or hope that she stops for her own daughters sake.