Hi, i need to get a divorce, I am now living in NY, but me and my wife resided in CT for 3 yrs and the abandonment occured in CT. She returned to japan almost 4 yrs ago, I need a divorce so I can get remarried. I have no been able to contact her by email, her cell phone is no longer in service, and all mail to last known address is returned. what is best cheapest way to get divorce? So we were married total of 4 yrs, we have been apart 4 yrs and I can not find her, she has left the country and returned to Japan. can anyone tell me what forms I need and what proof I need to demonstrate abandonment?