I hate to say this , but I think you're stuck until you meet the 2 year residency requirement for NY . The problem is , NY and Conn residency requirements are so very different . Because you never lived as a couple in NY , you can't file for divorce here until you've been a resident for at least 2 years and you can't divorce in Conn. because you don't meet the residency requirement either . Sorry .
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