well I tried talking about the house but she didnt want to. Instead she wound up talking about 'how can you stop loving someone etc'
so I told her she is a miserable person to be around, unsociable, hates people, is super depressed and the biggest thing was as much as she purports to have tried her best, i told her ok, then let me tell you i tried my best too. So now you know where i'm coming from
Also if you recall she told me last week she told me 2x that she didnt try harder because she never thought I"d leave. Well now she says she said that to try to keep me and would say anything to try to keep me...
I couldnt sleep so went back out and talked to her around 11pm and said do you want me out of this house to punish me or do you just want X amount of money? she said she goes back and forth between those decision. I said you know i have almost no money left after fixed costs here and if you take all your 15K and use it to get an atty to fight things, you will lose that money because he will suck it up. I said its best to get to the point where we agree on X and dont on Y then you can go get atty. She thought i kept telling her to not get atty. no! But if she wants to go that way, she can get her own, wheel to him herself and pay all the bills that come along with it. Sure will be fun trying to see how she does all this. I agreed to get her whatever paperwork i have on stuff because she knows nothing. But i think it's evident that her staying her just wont work out because i'll be pissed about the house/alimony and pension. She wanted me to go to the store for her cookies yesterdya and i said no you can go with me someday and get them. I knew she wasnt happy about that. If she will force sale of the devalued house, i wont make her life at home any easier, thats for sure. But we arent quite at that point yet. But why make her life better now if she is planning my demise? just cant do that and if she is looking out for her, i'm looking out for me
i think she appreciated the hug last night though. Maybe that will count for something
-------------------- call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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