Divorce Support Forums: Calling all stepmoms what would u do

OMG! it's like i hit a lucky card in the having-someone understand-what-i'm-dealing-with here too!! Here i thought the only nut-case out there was my husbands ex. he has 50/50 custody but it sounds like all of you have the same person as i do to deal with. lets see...if i give a quiz i am willing to bet that you can all agree to the following qualities in the ex: controlling (since their marriage and now wants to keep controlling)manipulative to husband and kids to get her way, jealous even though she is the one who cheated and ended the marriage, vindictive, has false sense of what reality is and what her "rules" are, acts like mother of the year but really has no regard for how her behavior makes the children feel. after 8 years i have found that it does not get easier. she will go through phases of being quiet but then BOOM she literally does one thing and then says another which is usually the opposite of reality. she is a serious nutball that needs some help and medication. as far as dealing with her, she cant keep her mouth shut so we have stopped phone conversations outside of emergencies and have set up an email account that we expect her to check daily. we have had two restraining orders-they never work they just find loopholes. she has NEVER been civil. she has done crazy things like buy things off our garage sale that were hers with my husband when they were married, walk in our house without knocking, hollars at me when i coach the kids in sports, tried to have me arrested for taking the kids to see my family out of state when it was my husbands week to have the kids-he was on a hunting trip and i decided to go it alone with them because they love my family and we were celebrating their 1 yr old sisters birthday. she did not care how it affected the children whom were sobbing when she called my cell phone to let me know that i would be arrested by a state trooper. of course this never happened because it was my husbands week to have the kids and there was nothing she could do about it. just lying. had i been arrested though, her kids wouldve been in foster care for the whole weekend until the state i was in could transport the children to our home state to their mother. did i mention i was 6 months pregnant? yes--psycho. that is actually what she is referred to between me and my husband because she is VERY psycho. there is no reasoning with her and i actually feel so sorry for the kids because she is going to have them so screwed up and it doesnt have to be that way.

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