My fiance's, ex-wife told him that she is teaching their daughter(then 2) to call him "dad" and her new step father "daddy" because she's read books on child psychology that said it's best to teach her that way. It broke my fiance's heart. It doesn't help that she moved three states away and is trying to make it as hard on him to be a "dad" as possible. She's still angry with him.
The last time we went to see his daughter she didn't know who we were, pretty much. While out in a public place, an older gentlemen commented on her "parents" (us) and she told him we were not her parents. My fiance' was heart broken again. I tried to explain to her that he is her REAL dad and some day I'll be her step mom like her mom's husband is her STEP dad. It was like I was talking in another language. We feel she should know the truth.
He and his ex have been divorced for about 5 years. His daughter will soon be 5 years old. We've been together for 4 years. He doesn't have a criminal record. I've tried to figure out why she wants him to pay so badly but nothing deserves being treated like this and how it may eventually effect their daughter. Especially, since she remarried and should be happy?
We see his daughter as often as we can (time and money). He calls her often. We send her packages for every occassion and send pictures of us all together so she'll know we're a part of her life. We haven't gotten to be with her for any holidays. When asked, she has an excuse and my fiance' doesn't want to fight with her because he doesn't want his daughter to suffer.
The older his daughter gets, the more, I'm afraid, she'll be confused. Can anyone suggest any books to help US with his daughters emotional well being?
Future step mom (I know how it feels to be a step kid!!)
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