Divorce Support Forums: Trapped

Someone please help. I have decided to divorce my wife because she has been abusive in every way to me for the past 10 years. I have made it clear that I no longer want to be married.

It's hard, because I'm leaving the Military in about 4 months and I am stationed in Germany. I told her that I want to be friends, and just be a Dad, while She's the Mom, and I want to be able to be with the kids while we go through this, So I haven't been going to the barracks room they put me in last time she was abusive to me.

The hard part, is that I can't seem to resist her when she wants to sleep with me. I don't want to be rude, mean or nasty to her, but if I'm not, She takes it as me wanting something more. That if I'm nice, I must want sex, and therefore to patch things up.

Everytime I do, I feel like an awful person. Right now, I just don't know what to do. I know I'll feel awful when I do it, but the heat of the moment overtakes me, and I do it, and I am miserable afterward. I don't want to be married to her anymore, and I know that sex means more to her than just the venting of frustration that it is for me. But I'm still so damn attached to her. She's the only woman I've ever slept with and I find it so hard to say no when She's wanting it.

It's really messing with my head right now. because I know for a fact that I want to leave her. All of the terrible stuff that's happened, I'm willing to forgive, and be friends with her, so that the kids can see that Mom and Dad, still care enough to be nice around them.

Is there any way to distance myself from her during this time without being a jerk to her? I, as of this moment, never want to have sex with her EVER again, but I don't know if I can resist when she decides She wants it.

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