after reading these posts and the advice i feel even MORE sure i will Never ever consider dating or remarrying.
this is the drama i got out of. my kids already feel rejected and replaced by their dad, if somehow, they felt that way at MY home due to another guy... well, i dont think they could take it.
and for that matter, two of my kids have SUCH trust issues... they will actually EXPECT rejection so they will act out SO badly at first. a guy will Really have to be committed as they will test, retest, and test again before they can relax and start to trust a guy not to leave them.