I guess that I wrote the first segment of this quite fast. Let's get down to brass facts. My wife has been a stay at home mom since we have been married. Before I thought it was a good Idea because I have a good job that pays well and have a second job as well. I know that I am away from home a lot but with the economy that way it is I just cannot help it. I have tried to make it all up to the family but my children are the only ones responding to any affection. There has been no sex life in the last 3 years.And anytime I go near her she just pushes me away.Sometimes I have wondered if she is having an affair but I really cannot tell. I have asked her about it and she just stated I am crazy. We go away on family vacations and she is always distant to me and the kids while we are away. I have gone to counseling alone because she refuses to go. I am trying but I fell that I am totaly lost and fighting a losing battle. Am I right? I am only looking for advice I have already informed my children want I maybe be planning to do and they want to live with me if in fact this happens. What should I do? Please I am l;ooking for advice. Can anyone out there help me?