Regarding the clothes: Here's my situation and I haven't had any issues with clothes.
I and my ex split the cost of all clothing bought for the kids regardless of who buys them. If I buy two sets of clothing, I send one of the sets over to the exes. This keeps the quantity equal. Also, neither parent ever feels that they are buying All of the clothes. Since that's how it's handled, neither one of us has any issues with what the kids are wearing when the exchange is made, because they are always wearing 1 set of clothing when they leave or arrive. Sure, the clothes get 'mixed up' between the houses, but no one cares. And why should we?
Simple.
-------------------- I didn't get married to pay CS later in life.