[quote]Well, I called jag and they said that he didn't even have to pay me that much and that he was entitled to keep his BAH and family sep pay and whatever else. His base pay is 6500 a month not counting his bah and cola and family sep pay. Oh well, I give up guess I'm [censored]!!! [/quote]
Get a lawyer that is familiar with the military. The BAH for the family goes to the family, not him.
What you need to do, if you have kids, is file for child support and temporary spousal support.
In the meantime, any bill with just his name on it doesn't get paid. It gets forwarded to him to pay.