Divorce Support Forums: anyone go with her to her atty?

This is a totally bizarre idea...but i have to float it.

summary for those not following my story...disabled wife in wheelchair is totally dependent on me. No family or support here so i'm her total world.

I've offered to take her to her 1st atty appt. I know she has someone in mind because when her mom was here she made some calls and told me he is a 'nice guy' and that wants 2500 up front etc etc.

So i think that means she hasnt seen him yet. I'm going to take her to her 1st appt once i file and she gets the papers. I'm sure she will want to to in alone for that. And the reason i'm going to take her (against advice i gave myself a few months ago), is that if i dont, i have to have her mom out here and thats just not fun at all. And i have no idea how many times you need to see an atty but i dont want visitors that often. (of course her mom prefers not to come here anyway as i found out but that's another tangent)

so i was wondering, after the 1st visit, would it be totally bizarre if i went in to my wifes atty with her to try to work things out? Or would he even let me (some kind of rule?) I'm sure many of you will say no way jose, thats why you hired an atty and i do understand that. But part of me was wondering if this would move along more quickly if i was there with her atty and going back and forth to see what he feels is 'fair'. Obviously this wont mesh with what i want but since i have to take her anyway, i figure why not use that time to my benefit and feel out what he wants?

of course i wouldnt do/sign anything until my atty wrote it up.

so what do you think...crazy..or not crazy?

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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.

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