hello everyone... my name is Cathie and I'm a mom of 4 minor children. I've been married for almost 15 years, together almost 17 years... my marriage wasn't always bad...there was alot of good times, but for almost a year it has gone bad. My husband was neglecting me and constantly going out partying ( I was 20 and he was 17 when we got together =/ ) and there were so many times that i would beg him to please just stay home with me for at least one weekend night alone, me and him, or out on a date, and he would refuse, saying that he had drinking to do. we both work full-time, so all we had was weekends. needless to say...i turned to online...an avatar 3d chat game, and finally got the attention i was craving... so i told my husband about it, and even he went on it, and after a couple months we split up and he moved out. but we never completely split up. i would still cook dinner for him every night, make love to him, we would take turns spending the nights here and at his mother's ( where he lives). still tell each other that we love each other, everything. until he met another woman. someone that was hanging around im all the time. he told me that he was done with me and was asking her out on a date. told me that they both liked each other alot. even told his family about her. i fought like crazy for him. so many tears and broken heart for me. eventually he moved back home and we were officially back together. the problem was that she was still in the picture. and he did nothing to avoid her. so finally after last week, he moved out again. come to find out, she found out and text messaged him from somebody else's cell phone and asked him to come over. ( he did) i caught him leaving her apartment. he was walking also because she told him to leave his car at his mom's so i wouldn't see it ( they live 2 minutes walking distance) and he did. now they are going back and forth...even though i have asked her several times to leave my husband alone and stop being a home wrecker. and she won't. she really is a druggie and a [censored] that sleeps around. wtf does he see in her? needless to say... he now wants a divorce. and i am totally crushed. i am sad and angry. i just want to die. please... any advice?
-------------------- I want to be the Phoenix that rises from the flames ( of the hell he put me in )