I am new here also and am just starting the divorce journey and it is painful-weird doesn't even begin to describe the pain-I don't even recognize myself anymore. My stbx and I have been married for 20 years and we have two teenage daughters. It seemed that my stbx was going to try to take the high road but I think I am getting screwed so I guess it will be a very painful battle after all since I can't trust the sob. Happiness comes and goes whatever happened to commitments??