Divorce Support Forums: Before I Leave?

Hello,

I am getting closer to completing my plan to start divorce procedings. I have a few questions to think over before I set up a lawyer apt. ( I am talking to a few to find a good fit).

1)Should I take 1/2 of the money out of our joint accounts to have something to help pay bills etc? I have read conflicting things on this.

2)If I leave with my kids (14 & 17) how long before we could move back in by "court order"? Could I ask for this in initial hearing?

3)Is it commom to get a restraining order so niether party damages, sells, throws out personal belonging of the other? She is mentally ill and not always acting rationally.

4)If one of us stays in the house, that has a rental value of say $1800 (no mortgage, just utilities taxes etc) and the other gets a place to rent for say $800, how would that affect the final split? Are we each responsible for 1/2 of the others resonable expenses? If so does that mean that whoever stayed in the home would be "using" $500 of equity each month?

5)If I moved out, and rented "part of a furnished home", from my parents, would this be considered a legitmit expense in the about senario if at a fair market value? Would I be better off paying nothing (which is what my parents would want) and would that mean she would get a smaller part of the equity left when things are finalize becasue I would have no monthly expenses in the mean time. For those of you thinkin it would be crazy to move in with my parents, this would be only until we could finalize and either move back into marital home of get the equity out to buy a new place. And they would be a great stable influence on my kids, which they havent gotten much of lately with a mentally ill parent thinking they are going to be "abandond"

Thanks,

DKC

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