I have one child, 14 year old daughter. Married for 29 years but now see I must get away from him, one reason being somewhat the situation you're in. Daughter doesn't respect me anymore, will not mind me, has hysterical fits.....and as any teenage girl, especially, manipulates both my husband and myself so that she gets what she wants. For instance, a big blow up with me, earns her a pity trip to the Mall with her father. I don't think it is that she hates you, I think she's just trying to manipulate, and remember both kids and adults alike take out their anger and frustration at the SAFEST person they know. Usually, their mom. Things will come back around.