2kids....i think we do it, because we don't want to be alone and we think they'll change for the better. a man or a woman isn't going to change. we marry them for better or worse, but it seems when the worse comes they are gone, or atleast mine is. but in my opinion we take them back because we love them, and we think they have changed. atleast i don't have kids in the picture, i know it's hard on them, both my brothers have kids and they took the seperation so hard. the important thing is don't let them think it's their fault that it happened. both my brothers kids blamed themselves thinking if they had cleaned their room more, if they'd listened more, mom wouldn't have left, but it's not their fault. i wish me and you luck thru this hard part.