Divorce Support Forums: Need to be patient......

This is your post dated 3/36/08 on your first thread.
"Another woman is what I am afraid of. I feel like right now we can work things out, but if there is another woman involved then that will change everything. I don't know if I could ever forgive him."

I truly understand the place that you are in right now. I need you to understand a few things, first of all you absolutely helped contribute to the problems in your marriage, YOU however did not push your husband into the arms of another woman, that is something he chose to do. (Unless of course you were out at a bar with your husband and grabbed some woman and sat her in his lap)...im thinking not though. : )

You also need to take the things your husband is saying to you right now with a grain of salt, most likely they are justifications and rationalizations to validate himself and his choices.

If you have decided that you truly want to save your marriage, then the next thing you need to do is figure out why your marriage is where it is. Be that an affair or otherwise. You cannot prepare for a battle when you dont know what your up against.

Really take some time to look within yourself, take time to think about the REAL issues in your marriage, not the nitpicky things your husband might be throwing at you right now, that seem to be out of nowhere.

Maybe think about seeing a councelor to help you get through this and help you make some good decisions.

--------------------
You must be the change you wish to see - Mahatma Gandhi

Post Extras