I was in no way saying that the responses were insensitive to me. I know how our situation looks and sounds, but only we know how it truly is. Maybe I have lost my mind by getting involved with someone who hasn't gotten divorced first, but I did. I don't feel I need to defend my relationship, I came here for support and answers from people who know how it works. He's never gone through a divorce and I've never even been married. I've read a lot of helpful posts on here. I'm not doing all of this because my boyfriend asked me, I'm doing this on my own to help him get the ball rolling. I appreciate the lease comment. That is something we were unsure of, but he has talked to his leasing office and found out what he had to do. And as far as him being able to afford child support, etc...that is something that we openly discuss. I know what to expect, and I expect the worst. That doesn't make me love him any less. Thanks to the helpful answers!