Gerick, When we live with someone day in day out, it is easy to become irritated with their ways, and we get to a point where we feel like we don’t even like our spouse… it usually passes. Ask yourself… deep down do I love my wife? Chances are that you do. You say you have created a list of items that concern you about your relationship, why not create a list of items that you like about your relationship…and write five things down that you really really like about your wife. Ask your wife to do the same. Then take mfergel’s advice (WOW, I read that post twice) from a women’s perspective, you’ll have her swooning over you in no time….and maybe that is all you need. Good luck!