Don't sign anything your service member tells you to sign UNLESS you get legal advice and understand everything completly. You are entitled to a survival benefit annuity that when these guys go to retire, will say oh we can purchase this later. DO NOT sign the papers. If you relinquish your benefit and get divorced your "annuity payment/spousal support" will stop. Go to the dfas.mil website and read, get educated about what your entitlements are. If you have been married tweenty years then your entitled to the 50% otherwise it's payments are based on a percentage of the 50%. Go to legal on base and talk to them to see what they say but be cautious they are there for the military member NOT SPOUSES. Just listen and absorb what they tell you and use what you can to your advantage. Good luck!