I'm sorry, I honestly didn't think of it as refusing my STBX visitation. I was asking for help w/daycare while he had our son. He never got back to me after his initial refusal to help and he actually took our son from the sitter w/out my knowledge on two different days. I also agreed to STBX picking son up early that Friday morning so he could spend more time w/him. It turns out that STBX spent more time w/son than I did that week.
Thank you for helping me realize that sometimes things people do come off looking totally opposite from original intention.