In thinking back on things, I can DEFINATELY say that there MUST be some kind of connection in order for me to be able to have sex with a woman.
Hell, I can remember the wife being angry about something, and I could just SENSE it...and I would have to stop because it just didnt feel right to do that with her when there was no emotional connection going on between us during the act.
yeah, I know, its not cool for guys to admit that kind of thing, but what the hell....I'm just being honest.
I can TRUTHFULLY say that I have been in the middle of it, and stopped because it didn't feel right (no puns, pls). I didnt just pork my wife, I wanted to make love with her each and every time....and if that "connection" wasn't there, then I could not continue.
Come to think of it, that happened more and more often towards the end....guess I should have seen it coming.