thank you so much! We do not live together because in my divorce I am not allowed to have anyone live with me in my martial home. I would have to move out - and i cant do that to my daughter unless i am getting married. and it wouldnt be fair to his children as well. I am very fortunate to have had a good divorce, my x and I are great friends as is my boyfriend and my x- I just cant say the same for his wife. I feel sorry that she is using the children against him. But I will look into the motion, he needs his children. Im sure ill be back for more help. again thank you for the support.