My stbx would fall asleep downstairs in front of the TV, and then want to wake me up in the middle of the night for sex every time. As a mom working full-time, this is not something you can do repeatedly and still function the next day. My take was (and I told him this over and over) if you want to sleep with the TV, sleep with the TV. If you want to sleep with me, come up to bed when it's bedtime and not in the middle of the night just because you can't sleep. He still didn't get it. Could I have been any more clear? Who would want to have sex when the initiator clearly wasn't listening to their wishes and didn't seem to care at all about it?