Germangirl, I hear ya. I know it isnt counceling, but all the councelor says is that is good that both parents are there. MY X is a manipulater. He is totally different when around others. I just want my kids to be happy and see their father they love. He isnt bad towards them....But he has no time with them. 10 hours a month is all. Two kids every tuesday for 5 hours at a time.