I am in the same situation as your ex, except I have only 1 child and have been with my boyfriend (not the father of my child) for 10 months today. (my ex left me while i was pregnant and soon after i started dating a good friend of mine) My boyfriend now lives in spartanburg which is an hour and 1/2 away from where me and my ex currently live. He is in a posistion where he cannot move down here and i am strongly considering moving there. Me and my ex are going to court next week over custody and child support. We are trying to come to an agreement between the two of us as far as visitation and have run into the same problem. I want him to have standard visitation (every other weekend) and he wants more i understand he wants more but with our work schedules and the distance it makes it harder to give more. My child and i spend aprx. 2-3 hours together at night on my work days thats not much at all and if he were to have her every weekend i would not get any days off with her myself.