Once again, I thank you all for your support, kind words, and advice...the last of which I am taking to heart, even though it is tough to do.
I am going to her graduation tomorrow. I view this as OUR accomplishment, just as I did my graduation from graduate school. Her family has been kind to me through this, so I am hoping the evening will not be too painful. Still, I am scared out of my mind about it.
I have also started sorting through the financial issues (just in case). I figure better safe than sorry.
After tomorrow night I am vowing to let her have as much space as she needs. Just talking to her every day or two has been hard enough...I was always the guy who called from work to check on her, called her phone the moment I got home if she wasn't here, etc...always just to hear her voice and make sure she was okay. But talking has done no good...and I think you guys are right. If she is going to come back, she has to do it in her time. And if not...well...i'm trying to deal with that, even if the idea kills me.