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Re: separated and hating it
      05/11/08 09:17 PM (76.116.184.208)
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I feel bad for you. I can't imagine my wife with another guy. I think about that possibility all the time, and is gut wrenching even though it hasn't happened.
The prospect of a new relationship always seems so exicting- a new person, things to talk about, and the general fun you have in the fact that someone is paying attention to you. But the fact remains that the newness wears off, the fun of the chase becomes mundane, and soon you are finding yourself in the same old situation- dealing with a person and their hangups and quirks. What was once fun and adventurous becomes routine, falling back into the very same feelings that drove you away from the previous relationship.
So why not figure these things out with the one you are with, instead of starting over and realizing the grass isn't always greener?
Most problems, aside from abuse, can be sorted out through communication and undertanding, ya know? Accept the other person for who they are, forget about the stupid crap that pisses you off, and learn to find a deeper meaning in the marriage.
Everyone seems so gung-ho to call it quits these days, as if divorce is fashionable or something. That's one reason I can't stand Hollywood and all the attention paid to these dysfunctional idiots that America glamorizes. All you hear about is who is cheating on who, which couple is getting divorced, and which actor is cheating on their husband/wife with another person.
Marriage just doesn't seem to be taken as serious as it once was perceived. First sign of trouble--bail out, and fall into another doomed relationship.
If both people aren't willing to take the time to figure out what is wrong with the current marriage, why the hell do they think they will be happy in another one?

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* separated and hating it Downwardspiral 05/10/08 09:19 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mev1985   06/01/08 08:53 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it phyzguy   06/07/08 02:10 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it picasso   06/07/08 02:34 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it roses808   06/07/08 12:49 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it SingleDad   06/19/08 01:00 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it sam_gamgee   07/16/08 02:50 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it picasso   06/08/08 01:30 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it Hoodwinked   06/09/08 11:14 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it LostWithoutHope   05/12/08 02:28 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it Zephyr   05/14/08 07:12 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it movingon2   05/15/08 12:12 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it allthumbs   05/16/08 04:06 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it WhatNext   05/22/08 02:48 AM
. * * Re: separated and hating it derkacz78   05/23/08 12:59 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mfergel   05/23/08 03:04 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mfergel   05/10/08 09:27 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it Downwardspiral   05/10/08 10:31 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mfergel   05/10/08 10:37 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it Downwardspiral   05/11/08 12:40 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mfergel   05/11/08 12:45 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it Downwardspiral   05/11/08 09:17 PM
. * * Re: separated and hating it mfergel   05/12/08 12:15 AM

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